Showing posts with label movie. Show all posts
Showing posts with label movie. Show all posts

Monday, October 27, 2008

Divorce Movies in the Works


A.C.O.D. (Adult Children of Divorce)

This is the title of a comedy that Miramax just picked up from Daily Show head writer Ben Karlin (more success for Daily Show peeps!) and Six Degrees co-creator Stu Zicherman's. The story follows a man who "discovers he was unknowingly part of a study on divorced children. He's enlisted in a follow-up years later that wreaks new havoc on his family."

Using humor with a painful topic.
As The Hollywood Reporter points out, "Divorce is a traumatic experience for millions of families, and Miramax hopes to heal their pain through the gift of very twisted laughter." The screenwriters themselves joked about their script, "We're very glad to get the validation from Miramax, especially since we've been working on the script longer than any of our parents were married."

More and more stories like this?
Four Christmases brings to light the unique chaos that is the holiday season for some adult children of divorce, in a funny, lighthearted way. And in the recently released Rachel Getting Married, the adult children at the heart of the film (Rachel and Kym) confront some of the painful effects of their parents' marriage (a strained and distant relationship with their mother, a father who tries to fix everything all the time) as they work through other issues. The divorce rate has increased tremendously over the years, and it makes sense that we might see more movies addressing this experience as more and more children of divorce become adults.

Sunday, May 21, 2006

An Unfinished Life


My mom recommended this movie. I could tell from her email that it really hit home with her. We don't always agree on movies, but I put it on my list.

Last night I was hanging out with a friend. She mentioned that she had rented a few movies, and wouldn't you know, an unfinished life was one of them.

I can see why it resonated so strongly with my mom. The movie explores themes of forgiveness, making peace with the choices we've made and how those choices affect others. In one poignant scene, the main character (who lost her husband in a car accident, and has since made a series of poor choices in boyfriends) says to her daughter, "I always think of you first!," to which the daughter replies, "Then it should start to show."

Earlier in the evening, at church, the message was on parenting. One of the key points was the influence of modeling and that 80% of children cite their parents as the #1 model for their moral ideals.

Something I've been mulling over for awhile is the idea that we have two opportunities with each choice we make. First we do something, then we choose to either reinforce or repair that action. For example, if I get into a disagreement with someone and say something rather unloving, I did something wrong, probably more out of emotion than choice. However, if I choose not to go back to that person, apologize and make amends, then I am intentionally choosing to reinforce that hurtful sentiment. From a spiritual perspective, I believe our conscience (empowered by the Holy Spirit) brings to mind when we're in need of repairing a situation. If we choose to follow through, to repair the harm we've done, we maintain our sensitivity. If we choose to ignore those promptings, we harden our hearts and it becomes more difficult to do the right thing.

What I like about this movie is that every character has a pretty understandable reason to be bitter or angry about life's circumstances, and it realistically shows the consequences for how they choose to respond to the life they've been given.

Thanks, Mom!