Monday, February 20, 2006
This is a brilliant book! Though I have never faced the issues Jen Abbas talks about, I was still enthralled because Jen is such an engaging writer. Her counsel is as practical as it is profound, and relevant not just for children of divorced couples, but any couple considering a divorce or anyone ministering to the children of divorce. You hold in your hands the debut of a gifted writer in whom the calling of God is most evident.
—Gary Thomas, author of Sacred Marriage
Though I'm a once-broken child of divorce, I've been happily married for over twenty years and am experiencing deep intimacy with my Abba Father. Through God, you can not only heal, but you can yet have your fondest dreams come true. Let Him help you through the vulnerable, honest and insightful discussions in Generation Ex. Jen Abbas is so masterful in weaving practical helps into her message that Generation Ex feels like a hybrid….is it a book or a workbook? She couldn't have chosen a better format, because processing the smothering pain and enduring fears born of a parent's divorce takes conscious work. Halfway through its pages, I was personally struck again by the overwhelming weight of the emotions of those years to the point of tears, and yet I was struck once more by the hope soaking every page as this revolutionary book wound towards its close. Generation Ex will surely free countless broken hearts to sing again.
—Fred Stoeker, author of Every Man's Battle and Every Woman's Desire
Jen has written a powerful book with a desperately needed message of hope for a lost generation. What's more she does it with an honesty that is refreshing and the intimacy of someone who has walked down this road herself. I was personally moved by the deeply personal revelations in this book; and, as a result, I have been able to see the issues at work in my family in a much clearer way. The courage and compassion it took to write this book amazes me. Thank you Jen for allowing God to use you in such an important way.
—Brad Miles, Everman
Generation Ex truly surprised me. I anticipated more of a soft biographical sketch of Jen's own life as a child of divorce. While it certainly has biographical elements, it is far more than that. Generation Ex is packed with stories gleaned from countless interviews of children of divorce, statistics gathered from a wide range of sources and great interactive ways for the reader to work through their own buried emotions resulting from a life thrust upon them by the mistakes and sins of their parents. Throughout the book Jen has provided practical means for the reader to come to grips with a reality that they have tried to bury under a facade of normalcy, all the while knowing that things were not quite right and would never be normal again.
Generation Ex is not a comfortable book to read. It isn't intended to be. It is like a surgeon's knife that has to do some damage before it bring the desired healing. Jen has succeeded in gently, yet effectively, cutting away the facade of normalcy that children of divorce hide behind in order to expose the real disease of the soul caused by circumstances beyond their control. While this is not a pretty process, it is necessary if true healing is to take place. Throughout this book Jen has gently, yet effectively, confronted the reader with the hard truth and then given them the means with which to begin the healing process. She has done this through places to reflect, consistent reliance on the Bible as an authoritative source, and a really tough "challenge" at the end of each chapter to make the reader dig deep into their soul to find the answers for themselves. The resources at the end of each chapter provide a library of additional readings that make Generation Ex something that will be referred to again and again.
—Tim Way, Sr. Book Buyer for Family Christian Stores
This fine book is an excellent resource for both those seeking healing from the experience of divorced parents as well as those seeking to minister to them. Jen weaves together personal stories, practical exercises, and her Christian faith in a masterful way that is highly readable and motivating. Her voice of experience is compassionate, credible, and challenging to the reader to not only understand, but also move forward in a process of healing and restoration. This book is an essential resource for any professional who wants to understand and guide adult children of divorce through a comprehensive healing process.
—Tom Emigh, Vice President for Student Development, Cornerstone University
Anyone who has suffered the experience of their parents’ divorce will be blessed by this book. Jen Abbas will gently guide you on the path of personal health and wholeness with her vulnerability, wisdom and biblical counsel.
—Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, Seattle Pacific University, Authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts
More research is coming out every day about the long-term effects of divorce on now grown children. As a veteran in the publishing world, Jen Abbas knows where there are holes in the market that need filling. Jen also knows the hurt of growing up in a divorced home and offers practical, biblical help for the thousands [millions] like her-and like me. Generation Ex is a timely resource that hits a major felt need in our country.
—Dr. John Trent, President, StrongFamilies.com and Author of Love is a Decision
If you are brave enough, I would encourage anyone who has been affected by a divorce to read this book. Jen deals with this very delicate subject head on as only someone with her past family experience can do. I have written about divorce in my song, “You’re My Little Girl” and am constantly being approached by children of divorced parents who are struggling with the very things talked about in this book. I am so thankful that somebody had the guts to step up to the plate and write a book like this. I will always have copies of Generation Ex on hand to give to these kids at every concert we do.
—Jamie Statema, Member of the vocal group Go Fish
The lingering effects of divorce will cripple adolescents and attempt to destroy the emotional health of adult children unless hope and healing can be found. Generation Ex helps readers take a big step in that healing process, equipping adult children of divorce to own their pain before they disown it and allow the losses in their lives to make them better, more healthy adults.”
—Gary Sprague, president, Center for Single-Parent Family Ministry
Jen Abbas probes deeply into the complexities associated with divorce in her exceptional resource, Generation EX: Adult Children Of Divorce and The Healing Of Our Pain. She accurately illustrates the heart wrenching issues, as well asthe hope and help available to those who desire healing. As a child ofdivorce myself, and an author and expert in divorce recovery ministry, I highly recommend this as a "must read" for pastors, counselors, and individuals who desire to understand the long-term issues related with adult children of divorce.
--Laura Petherbridge, author of When Your Marriage Dies: Answers To Questions About Separation and Divorce